Having been asked, what is my platform in writing my last two books, I decided to devote this blog to a crucial object in mens' and womens' lives. It is called self esteem. We all have self esteem. Some people have an esteem that is confident and others have an esteem that needs fixing.
I cannot give anyone expert advice, except about my life, which I have been trying to do in this blog over the last two years. Self esteem starts early in life. When an individual has been sexually molested , has had a bad marriage or lost a relative to a separation, our self esteem is affected. We try to find ways to fix it and cry for years or try self destruction. We try to put it behind us but it always pops up when we are at a convention and the speaker talks about something they have gone through. That lets us know we need more healing in that area of our lives. We try to forgive the person that inflicted us with these hideous acts but it seems to creep back in at unexpected times. We do things in our lives because we have been molded into this web of living and are always trying to get out of it.
We build a bubble around ourselves; not giving anyone a chance to hurt us again. We start to live a lonely life. We blame ourselves because we think it must have been our fault when in fact, it is the fault of the perpetrator. We take the blame because we don't feel good about ourselves and in fact we feel rejected. We destroy relationships and think nobody cares for us. This is a major cause of low self esteem.
We hate it and are constantly trying to rid ourselves of this burden that has itself strapped to our backs. We go to seminars, listen to the word of God, pray, and share with other individuals. Some of the load drops off, but there is still debris hanging on our lives.
Take it from an older individual that God has blessed to live a long life, that life does suck. When we read that the Lord does not give us more than we can handle, we wonder what in the world that means. I think I understand that verse now. The Lord is always asking us to 'cast our cares' on Him, I Peter 5:7. Well we do that, then turn around and take them back. So now I know, if you cast your cares, you have nothing to handle except to pray for yourself or another individual. Sometimes we let the devil tell us we can't minister peace to someone who is going through what we are in. That is when we have to realize that He is there to help us when we need Him. The other person is more important than we are at that moment. We need to turn outward instead of inward. We cannot contol our past but we sure can control our future.
My book 'Revealed Secret' is a story about a woman who finds her parents after forty years. She has stirred up the town, and unforgiveness has run rampant especially since her dad is the pastor of a local church. The story continues in the next book 'Sweet Revenge', not yet published, about the low esteem that has afflicted a mother and her daughter and their battle to get out from under this dependence on each other.
'Revealed Secret' is an e-book now and can be bought at.... ..... also Amazon.com and many others.
